I asked some moms what they wish they had known before they had a baby. Here are some of the things I heard:
It’s ok to not have all the answers.
Listen to your body and his/hers.
Rest when you need to and don’t be afraid to ask for a minute to yourself.
You are in the middle of a huge life change and you may not feel like yourself for a little while.
The new normal takes a while to settle in.
Do not over do it. It’s perfectly acceptable to say “no” or “YES please” when someone asks to hold your new bundle.
I asked them what was the hardest thing- and one thing was chimed in over and over- Sleep Deprivation and here are the others:
That just when you think you have it all figured it…it all changes!
Sleep deprivation is hard!
It is hard balancing what you want to be capable of in your head and what is realistic. Figuring out why the baby is crying… she just ate, she has a clean diaper, I’m holding her… oh! She wanted to be skin to skin with her Dad!
Not being able to pick up and go! I was always a run around type of girl & now it takes TONS of planning to leave the house.
Without a doubt, it was feeling like a prisoner in my home because of my fear of nursing in public. 9 years and 4 kids later, it’s not at all an issue now. But it’s been quite a mental/emotional journey!
Losing my sense of self.
My kids are 13,10 & 3 months. This is definitely a huge change for not only me but my other 2 kids as well. So for me I have to say so far it’s been a mental/emotional journey in our home as well….in a good way of course!
Not enough time alone and with the hubby
For me it was the lack of connection with other moms… I had a pretty high need kid and was desperate to create some kind of rhythm in the midst of learning curve chaos (stress of new mommyhood=felt like I’d crammed 4 years of college into 4 months)
Sleep deprivation!!
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